A mother of two who says she has been battling major depression for a while shared a very deep and emotional post about depression.
The woman, whose name is Chrissie Gaddies shared photos of her messy bedroom on Facebook and explained why people who have almost ''everything'' still commit suicide because they are depressed.
I was my bedroom yesterday morning. I'm not posting this because I'm proud of it or to be funny. I'm posting this because THIS IS WHAT DEPRESSION LOOKS LIKE. Certainly, there are moments when depression looks like crying and all that stereotypical stuff, but this is what everyday life looks like when you are living with major depression. I pull myself together enough to keep my boys alive and taken care of. We don't miss appointments. We do extracurricular activities. We go to church and to the park. I text friends to check on them and pay my bills. I do what needs to be done. Everything in the apartment gets cleaned except my room. Not intentionally, it just happens.
I've never survived a natural disaster like a tornado or hurricane but I've seen the aftermath on TV. People hide in a safe place to ride out the storm and when everything is calm again they come out and see the damage. That's what living with depression is like for me. I ride it out and then on a day when I wake up and things are good I look around to assess the damage and clean up. And then I wait for the next storm to hit. It could be a day or a few weeks. But it's always coming back.
I've been reading several posts about the recent suicides of celebrities. People have been making these comments about money can't buy happiness and how success can't fill voids in your life. Those words are nice, but they aren't the whole picture. Kate Spade and Anthony B probably loved their work. It probably brought joy and fulfillment to their lives. Just like I love my boys and wouldn't trade being their mom for anything. Depression doesn't care. It holds your head under the water until it decides to let go. And sometimes you just get tired of holding your breath.
The people in your life living with major depression don't look depressed. They get up every day and present well. They are fighting with everything inside of them to be and feel normal. If you're looking for someone in a corner crying you're probably not going to find that.
Just love us where we are. Don't push us to heal or shame us for taking meds. Don't tell us all the things that help you when you're feeling sad. Just love us. Don't try to do life for us. If you offered to clean my room I would tell you no. Not because of shame or pride but because I know my good day is coming and I know how great it's going to feel when I can clean my room, or cook dinner, or whatever it is that I haven't been able to do during the storm.
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Wednesday, 13 June 2018
Nigerian pharmacist in Chicago shoots dead his wife, their 8 year old daughter, and commits suicide
The dead bodies of three family members were found in a home in west suburban Chicago. It has now been revealed that they are Nigerians and it was a murder-suicide carried out by the father.
Olasunkanmi Esho,42, a Nigerian Pharmacist living in Chicago, shot his Cameroonian wife, Bourk Esho, 33, and their 7-year-old daughter, Olivia Esho, after which he shot and killed himself.
The Darien Police Department says officers responding to a call about shots fired in a home in the 7500-block of Farmingdale Drive, found the bodies about 1 a.m. Sunday.
They are survived by their 13-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter. The 8-year-old reportedly died in the arms of her 13-year-old brother. According to reports, the teenager heard gunshots outside and ran to call his mom to report the incident, not knowing their dad had shot their mom. On getting there, he saw his sister bleeding and he carried her to seek for help but she died in his arms.
Olasunkanmi Esho,42, a Nigerian Pharmacist living in Chicago, shot his Cameroonian wife, Bourk Esho, 33, and their 7-year-old daughter, Olivia Esho, after which he shot and killed himself.
The Darien Police Department says officers responding to a call about shots fired in a home in the 7500-block of Farmingdale Drive, found the bodies about 1 a.m. Sunday.
They are survived by their 13-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter. The 8-year-old reportedly died in the arms of her 13-year-old brother. According to reports, the teenager heard gunshots outside and ran to call his mom to report the incident, not knowing their dad had shot their mom. On getting there, he saw his sister bleeding and he carried her to seek for help but she died in his arms.
Nigerian Army neutralizes 23 Boko Haram Insurgents, recover arms
According to a statement issued by the Director, Army Public Relations, Brig.-Gen. Texas Chukwu, the terrorists were killed during an operation carried out by soldiers in the Lake Chad region on Monday.
He however said some of the insurgents escaped with gunshot wounds. The operation, he disclosed further, was carried out by troops of 153 Task Force Battalion in conjunction with the support of its Cameroonian Defence Forces counterpart.
Some of the items said to have been recovered were six AK 47 rifles, two FN rifles, eight AK 47 rifle magazines, 33 rounds of 7.62 mm NATO ammunition, one link of 7.62mm NATO and two motorcycles.
ARMY NEUTRALIZES 23 BOKO HARAM TERRORISTS, RECOVER WEAPONS— Nigerian Army (@HQNigerianArmy) June 12, 2018
Troops of 153 Task Force Battalion in conjunction with elements of Cameroonian Defence Forces while on clearance operation on 11 June 2018, encountered Boko Haram terrorists. pic.twitter.com/ReapW0dKTA
SPOTTED -Drake seen on a date night with Curvy Model Zmeena. Her curves are provocative, see photos
Well its not news that Canadian rapper, Drake a thing for curvy women, what is news is the curve on this mami, this lady's curve are provocative!
Drake was this week spotted on a date with a curvy model identified as Zmeena in Toronto and her body deserves some accolades. The pair were pictured leaving Sotto Sotto Ristorante in Toronto together.
See more eye-popping photos of Zmeena below.
Drake was this week spotted on a date with a curvy model identified as Zmeena in Toronto and her body deserves some accolades. The pair were pictured leaving Sotto Sotto Ristorante in Toronto together.
See more eye-popping photos of Zmeena below.
Stop confusing Nigerians. It is not possible to honor MKO Abiola in one breathe and and then admire his tormentor in another breath - Soyinka
Nobel laureate Prof. Wole Soyinka today told President Buhari that honroing late Chief MKO Abiola and praising his ''tormentor in chief'' was quite confusing.
Prof. Soyinka spoke at the Presidential Villa during the conferment of posthumous award of Grand Commander of the Federal Republic (GCFR) on the presumed winner of the June 12 presidential election, the Late Moshood Kashimawo Olawale Abiola.
Though the Nobel Laureate did not mention any name, his words pointed to the late dictator, Gen. Sani Abacha who President Buhari had praised in recent times. Speaking at the event, Soyinka said
“I would like to make a request Mr President that you stop creating confusion in the minds of Nigerians. Stop confusing Nigerians. It is not possible to honor MKO Abiola in one breathe and and then admire his tormentor in another breath. Loyalty is all very well but that loyalty can become perverse if that loyalty is retained to an individual who if he were alive today, would be before the international court of crimes against humanity, one who broke the laws of Nigeria, committed crimes humanity. It is confusing if professional loyalty is carried so far.
We had a private conversation sometime ago and remember that one of the things I mentioned to you was this, You are fighting corruption, how come it that a notorious corrupt ruler is honored by one of the most important avenues in the FCT. The answer you gave to me was not too satisfactory but I let it pass. Today perhaps is also a day for us to inaugurate our hall of shame to future generations'' he said
Prof. Soyinka spoke at the Presidential Villa during the conferment of posthumous award of Grand Commander of the Federal Republic (GCFR) on the presumed winner of the June 12 presidential election, the Late Moshood Kashimawo Olawale Abiola.
Though the Nobel Laureate did not mention any name, his words pointed to the late dictator, Gen. Sani Abacha who President Buhari had praised in recent times. Speaking at the event, Soyinka said
“I would like to make a request Mr President that you stop creating confusion in the minds of Nigerians. Stop confusing Nigerians. It is not possible to honor MKO Abiola in one breathe and and then admire his tormentor in another breath. Loyalty is all very well but that loyalty can become perverse if that loyalty is retained to an individual who if he were alive today, would be before the international court of crimes against humanity, one who broke the laws of Nigeria, committed crimes humanity. It is confusing if professional loyalty is carried so far.
We had a private conversation sometime ago and remember that one of the things I mentioned to you was this, You are fighting corruption, how come it that a notorious corrupt ruler is honored by one of the most important avenues in the FCT. The answer you gave to me was not too satisfactory but I let it pass. Today perhaps is also a day for us to inaugurate our hall of shame to future generations'' he said
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