How to Deal with Anger

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the Sun go down upon your wrath” - Ephesians 4:26

Recognize the fact that anger does you no good

When we feel offended to the point of losing our temper, we have the tendency to satisfy ourselves by taking revenge either by vituperations or getting physical. It causes us more harm than the person who has offended us. This is because we have clearly flouted that rule and unconsciously extinguished the fire of God in us.

The spirit of God is characterised by love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance. Now a foul spirit like anger only contaminates all of these and if care is not taken takes them out of you as you try to build on them. Also, while trying to revenge by verbal or physical attacks, we are trying to help ourselves and disregard God who said vengeance belongs to Him.

Don’t you think so? Who do you really think can make whoever offended you sorry for what he did and get punished if he deserves it? God of course! In every unfair situation, we should rely on God to make us champions not victims.

It may not be easy but please let’s try and before you know it, nothing would ever get you angry and make you lose your temper because if God sees that you acknowledge Him so much, this would make Him draw you close and pour out His spirit into your soul. Now, when the power of God overshadows your inner man, how can flesh move you? Please say this prayer repeatedly and let it resonate in your spirit.

“Oh God my father, let your power overshadow my spirit.”

Sincerely pray for any person you are holding a grudge against, and for anyone who feels like ‘a thorn in your side.’

Honestly, this may not be easy at first. But it gets God on our side and makes Him belittle that person before us. And by praying for the person you are having a hard time forgiving, the pressure begins to lift from your heart and mind.

It is a terrible feeling to stay angry at someone, and yet we have all been guilty of it. God works many miracles in answer to the prayers of His people, and one of the greatest miracles is when someone gets delivered from the ugly feelings of sinful anger and grudges.

Never go to bed while you are still angry

‘Neither give place to the devil’ - Ephesians 4:27

When we go to bed angry, we don’t sleep well, and the issue is still front and centre in our mind the moment we wake up. Why? Because our body struggled to rest while our subconscious remained restless. We went to bed with unresolved anger in our heart. Don’t forget that the devil fights us through our spirit and sleeping with anger only opens up our lives to demonic invasion.

We end up getting ourselves into trouble we could have easily avoided. Then we start having other battles to deal with. What misery we put ourselves through when we go to bed angry. There’s so much to enjoy in life than dealing with attacks from the devil.

How much better to end the day in prayer and with these words: ‘I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, Lord, only makest me dwell in safety’ - Psalm 4:8

Before you go to sleep, ask the Lord to protect your night’s rest by the power in the blood of Jesus. You’ll be amazed at what a difference it makes. You will not only dream of God’s great plans for your destiny, but you can also see visions of heaven.

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Tips - 10 Female Habits that drive men crazy

Being comfortable with your other half is wonderful, however, you might have unconsciously picked up some habits along the way that turn him off. Here are the top 10 traits we think you should steer clear of.
10: Over-analysing everything
Let’s face it, men really aren’t that complicated. So if a guy says, ‘I’m a bit busy right now. Can I ring you later?’ chances are, work’s really quite hectic. One kiss in his texts instead of the usual two doesn’t mean he’s gone off you, and a surprise cup of tea doesn’t mean he’s feeling guilty. So give men the benefit of the doubt, take things at face value and you’ll save yourself a heap of stress.

9: Wearing too much make-up
We’re all for making an effort, but caking on too much slap risks bringing out your inner drag queen rather than your secret sex kitten. False eyelashes, fake tan and hair extensions all have their place, but a girl can look fab without resorting to these tricks. Far much better to enhance your natural beauty instead of hiding it, and remind him how gorgeous you really are.

8: Shop till YOU drop
If a man is lucky enough to share his life with a girl, chances are he has to share it with a massive shoe collection as well. Dragging him around the sales for hours, splurging obscene amounts of cash and then taking up valuable storage space with your spoils can drive him up the wall. While retail therapy can soothe many a crisis, perhaps leave your partner at home next time!

7: Taking forever to get ready
Even if the end result is a vision of beauty, it takes a very forgiving man to shrug off a three-hour wait. Men understand women want to look their best, but are perfect nails and expertly smoothed dresses really necessary for a visit to your local curry house? Being ready quickly will show how laid back you are, and give you both more time to have fun.

6: Gossiping
According to scientific types, a good gossiping session is a way of bonding and triggers the release of endorphins, those hormones that make us feel happy. This is all well and good, but when it descends into a bitching fest it can be a turn-off. And if the focus of the gossip is someone the man knows too, it can be very awkward next time he sees them.

5: Pinching other people’s chips
No one’s going to judge a girl if she orders her own plate of chips, or a dessert for that matter. But if you virtuously stick to a salad and then proceed to demolish the tasty stuff from the plate opposite, it’ll raise a few eyebrows. Go on - order the chocolate pudding if you want it. And don’t worry if you don’t want to share!

4: Obsessing about weight
Women are bombarded with images of perfect beauty, so it’s no wonder fretting about our appearance is an hourly past-time. But even though it might not seem like it, men just aren’t as interested in our bingo wings as we are. If you radiate self-confidence, no one’s going to notice those extra three pounds you put on recently.

3: Nagging
‘Have you paid the gas bill yet?... Are you EVER going to fix that shelf?’ Women have a habit of going on in such a way that the more they nag, the lower the chance their man will ever do whatever it is they’re being asked. The solution? Do it yourself! Failing that, ask sweetly and sparingly, and lavish him with gratitude when it eventually gets done.

2: Talking too much
It’s official - us girls love to chat. In the ladies’ loo, at the gym, at the pub – we have something to say most of the time. But while no one likes an awkward silence, it’s worth remembering your man is not your sound board, like your best friend might be. He doesn’t care quite as much about Julie in reception’s b00b job, or the fact that you’ve been searching high and low for spring’s must-have colour block skinny jeans. Stick to subjects that will interest you both and ask lots of questions – especially when you’re getting to know each other.

1: Probing men’s inner thoughts
You’re snuggled up on the sofa, enjoying a rare moment of peace and quiet. And then comes THAT question – ‘What are you thinking?’ You’re only trying to foster the atmosphere of intimacy and perhaps hoping for some proof that you’re the centre of his thoughts. But his mind may have already wandered to yesterday’s football scores and he’ll have to lie to keep you happy. Compliments are lovely, but if you wait until he chooses to dish them out, they’ll be that much sweeter..