There's no denying the huge impact that social media has had on this generation and how we have ingratiated it into our daily existence, some people cannot go anywhere without announcing it on a social media platform or taking pictures for Instagram. As many positives as social media brings us, what are the negatives? One thing that I have always wondered about is the effect of social media on relationships and can modern day relationships survive with having every detail splashed out there on the WWW. I've been wanting to write a piece on this for a while but whilst doing my morning sweep of my favourite sites, I came across an article written on Thought Catalog which seemed to ask a lot of pertinent questions. I enjoy documenting special moments on social media with my significant other, it's something for me to look back on and remember good times or even just to smile. For me, it's not showing off or trying to look like the perfect couple but simply being proud of your significant other and wanting to share those happy moments with others. However, I must admit when I see couples dragging their dirty laundry onto the timeline's, it's embarrassing and unnecessary. Every couple has arguments and tiffs but that should never be brought into the public domain. Like I said, social media definitely has its pros and cons but if you're using it properly and sensibly then there's no reason why everything can't co-exist in harmony. Have a read and let me know what you think. Social media and relationships: Yes or No?
"Social
media has become the bane of our existence. It is such a constant
nuisance, yet it is still something we consider to be a ridiculously
important aspect in our society. As much as we don’t want to admit
it, social media runs our lives. In the morning, we routinely take
our phones and click on Instagram to see what events we’ve missed
out on, check Facebook to see what’s been on people’s “minds,”
and then tweet our often-random thoughts into a snappy 140
characters. Face it, we’re all obsessed, but has this obsession
reached an all-time low? Are we really that addicted to the
social media world that exists on our iPhones and computers?
Yes,
we are. We’ve head-on immersed ourselves in social media, and in
return, we’ve let social media invade almost every part of us. We
willingly let social media break the boundary between personal and
public with just one click. Worst of all, social media has
effortlessly made its way into the most arcane and private piece of
our being. What is so concealed and important that social media has
stomped in on? Our love lives.
Yes,
you’ve read that right; social media and our love lives have
naturally become intertwined with one another. When two people become
a couple, it’s instantly updated on each person’s relationship
status on Facebook. When you’re mad at your SO, you harshly
formulate an angry sub-tweet on Twitter. If you’re curious to know
what your blind date looks like, then you can easily check on
Instagram. One simply follows the other. Get it? In our world today,
we measure means of love and dating by what social media has to offer
us. Is this a match made in heaven, or is this one couple we
shouldn’t admire?
While
others think these forms of instant gratification and extremely
public displays of affection are beneficial for us all, I really
can’t agree. Delicate things such as dating and our love lives
going hand-in-hand with social media doesn’t seem to be ideal.
Having people knowing our every move is creepy enough, but for
everyone to have a say in how “cute” of a couple two people are
or determining your “#relationshipgoals” based on pictures from
Tumblr is a bit much. It appears that social media is
creating unrealistic expectations for our SO to reach, while also
openly showing two people’s fondness for one another, or lack-of as
well. With every click, post, and tweet, we are instantly giving
people an inside scoop on our dates, past and present lovers, and
much more. It seems that with social media, people are more
susceptible to making their lives, and more importantly, their love
lives, less and less private. Something that is so personal between
two people has become something that everyone is involved in. Forget
being in a reserved relationship with one person because once you add
a filter and upload that photo, you’re exposed to the opinions,
advice, and unnecessary likes of millions of people.
So
now what? What do we do about this mismatched duo? We can all safely
admit we have succumbed to the evils of love via social media, but
how can we change this? In my opinion, the best way to overcome this
complicated relationship with have with social media is to pay less
attention to it. Even though social media is a huge step in
communication amongst others, it can be pretty harmful, especially
when it creates conflicts between two people. It seems that when in a
relationship, ignorance of our dating pasts is bliss, but with social
media, we are exposed to everything we do not want to see.
Relationships, love, and dating are all intimate parts of our lives,
and I think it’s best to say we might want to update those parts to
private from now on. Sorry, social media, we aren’t accepting your
friend requests in the love department anymore."
By Lauren Marino
Read original post here: http://thoughtcatalog.com/lauren-marino/2014/09/modern-relationships-are-threesomes-between-two-people-and-their-social-media/
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