Sexual desire is an omnipresent part of life. The issue of workplace
sex or copulation within a corporate organisation, over the years, has
often been ignored. Disregarded due to its ugly existence in almost
every contemporary organisation. It is rare to find an explicit
definition for workplace sex or make a clear cut boundary between
professionalism and sexual desires. There is an underlying desire for
companies to create ways in which to curb this ‘necessary evil’ or
‘immorality’ but the result, based on findings, metamorphoses into a
multi-headed monster.
Indubitably, education on workplace sex in
corporations remains woefully inadequate. Furthermore, when these issues
are addressed, discussions tend to focus on issues of excess, abuse,
and harassments, thereby precluding a fuller and fairer exploration of
the role debauchery plays in professional relationships with colleagues,
customers and trainees.
What situation(s), if any, lead to office
sex? What are the consequences of this shameful act? Who should be the
moral judge? Is it a necessary evil or an aberrant judgement oft-imbrued
in corporate environments? To try and answer these questions alone
makes the addled and suppressed nature of this issue salient
The
definition of workplace sex at this juncture can only be adumbrated by
various accounts of different individuals. For a full grasp of the
definition, these scenes should be imagined with a sixth sense.
The
first scene was narrated by a former employee of one Nigerian bank. He
stumbled on one of his superiors having sex with a female colleague who
just got married two weeks prior. They stopped when they saw him. In the
time since this steamy adventure, the witness further claimed that the
woman got rapid promotions, increased allowances and other mouth
watering packages. Unfortunately, the witness cum accountant lost his
job. Why?
Another was a case of a male staff that consistently
slept with his female boss embarking on the parlanced ‘sleeping his way
to the top’ approach. The husband of the boss was eventually made
cognizant of this sexual liaison, took laws into his hands, and had the
employee waylaid and executed by hired thugs. The boss was shocked after
the incident and broke down psychologically which led to some
irreplaceable loss to the company.
The last scene reveals where
workplace sex begins and gives an insight to the psychology most new
recruits carry into a particular organisation. It involves a university
graduate recruitment officer of one large oil servicing corporation who
sleeps with female graduate trainees. The incentive the ladies get for
opening their legs for his lust is a job placement. When the university
graduate officer was questioned about sex activities in his company, he
looked to the heavens, swore with every fibre of muscle in him that he
wasn’t guilty of such venal, misogynistic business. In his words, ‘our
company frowns seriously at that kind of stupidity.’ Revelations from
some of his company’s staff, however, prove otherwise. Some of the
victims claim sex before employment consideration to be his modus
operandi. It epitomises the Nigerian axiom, ‘money for hand, back for
ground.’
These scenarios occur daily in our corporate
organisations. From the above scenes, one is forced to cogitate what is
perhaps a fatal breakdown of human sensibility. The relevance of these
issues cannot be shut out of the corporate parlance. Employees need to
be educated about the risks and disadvantages of workplace sex. It kills
the spirit of contributing effectively to the development of the said
company. Laws must be enforced and accurate punishment must be meted out
to individuals who fall short in this respect. Mails should be
monitored as most of the sexual activities, it has been found, start
from ‘dirty’ communication between colleagues.
Engineers, bankers,
lawyers, accountants, secretaries, amongst other professionals, need to
act professionally at all times and learn to control their sexual
emotions. Some professionals have argued that office ‘love’ lead to
marriages. Blissful as it may sound, a large number of the relationships
in offices end up on a sour note. Lives are addled, homes are broken
and jobs, sometimes, lost. Some of the victims feel guilt compounded
with a drained integrity that is no doubt detrimental to the company’s
work atmosphere, cohesion and performance.
It is safe to conclude
with Frankel and Williams (2001) who espouse ‘the use of facilitated
discussion groups, workshops, support groups, and personal awareness
groups as well as individual and group therapy to encourage open
discussions of sexual issues in the workplace. These approaches can
increase self-awareness, prevent unconscious acting out of sexual needs;
help distinguish feelings from actions, and help trainees and
practitioners develop appropriate personal and professional boundaries.’
Irene is enrolled as a PHD Creative Writing student at Anglia Ruskin University, Cambridge
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Culled from DailyPost